What do you think when this so called word “expectations” comes into your mind? Expectations! Yeah, you expect something from expectations. It’s just not the word my dear friends, it is that constructive thing that can create masterpieces in everything, you can say in relationships, in your career and by far in your life and also a destructive one which can perish anything and everything in the world. It’s a feeling in everyone that the things should happen as the way they thought out to be or more precisely ought to be.
What everyone expects? What do we expect? It varies from person to person. A child expects attention & affection from his/her loved ones, father expects his children to be more successful than him while mother expects them to be more caring & loving than her. A friend expects companionship at the happiest & also the most difficult times while a lover expects love from the other partner. An employee expects a raise in the salary while a company expects to do more progress in their relative field. Even the smallest of living creatures expects sun to be rise every day and make them live. There are numerous things to add but the constraint is time. Everyone expects something, from an event, from a particular person or by far from their life.
Every time when we expect something we tend to attach to that thing emotionally and after that, detachment becomes very difficult. At times it is unbearable when something doesn’t happen as it should have, mind spins around & heart is felt too heavy to keep at the pace.
As we take on the positive side, every time it teaches you a lesson. It inspires us to be stronger and to be more introspective, thinking why that thing couldn’t happen the way we thought? We seek the solutions on how to cope up with the setbacks that encountered through the time. In relationships, it guides you to filter out those who were never meant to be with you. Those who never understood you, those who never tried to break that illusionary wall that sometimes built in unavoidable circumstances. But on the real side, don’t we expect from our near & dear ones! If we are giving our more than 100% to any relationship then we have an utmost right to expect something from the other side. And if this doesn’t happen then we feel disheartened and negative things takes up our mind. But yeah it has a positive side too. It brings out the one you never expected, the one who is perfect for you and the one who will be there forever & ever till the end.
Once I was somewhat depressed, when all of a sudden one of my best friends’-Soham texted me motivating message. Many of my friends’ text these types of messages but this was at the very perfect time. The message goes this way -
translated as ''lucky is not the one who has the best fate but the one who is happy with what he has…'' This really moved me and made me actually feel good! It came at the time when I really needed it, that’s what expectations are all about. They shower at the time when you have least expected! You do get surprises, surprised by the way god connects to you in a godly manner and guides you when you most needed it.
"Khush-Naseeb Woh Nahi Jiska Naseeb Acha Hain, balki Khush-Naseeb Woh Hain Jo Apne Naseeb se Khush Hain…”
“Anyone who loves in the expectation of being loved in return is wasting their time. Love for the sake of love itself." – Paulo Coelho
There’s a long live misconception that “Expectation always hurt!”, but in a true sense it really brings out the best from you and the best for you. This is the positive side of negative consequences of expectations and as we are meant to follow the positive sides, filter out the negative ones, expect less and you will be surprised how the future comes out. A person should be happy within his own content, from what he has and from what he can do with what he has, to rise in everything he does, to reach at the upmost peaks in satisfaction, to reach beyond the limits and to break all the barriers that comes between him and his goal.
Ending with a thoughtful thought -
“Expect less and give more, never know you may be fulfilling someone else’s expectations…”